BOUNDARIES, SELF-DISCIPLINE, AND SELF-CONTROL
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BOUNDARIES, SELF-DISCIPLINE, AND SELF-CONTROL
***Boundaries, Self-Discipline, and Self-Control***
I've learned over the years that saying no is difficult, even to yourself. Boundaries are not just for others; you must also set them with yourself.
***Boundaries with yourself***
Four years ago, I had to establish some boundaries with sugary drinks. I barely drank a bottle of water in a day, which was a lot. It saddens me now when I think about it. Although replacing juice with water wasn't easy, I knew I had to do it. I would tell myself many stories about why I should have juice instead of water. One of my go-to arguments was "The food would taste better with juice." Setting boundaries with yourself requires self-discipline and self-control.
I had to discipline myself to choose water whenever I was thirsty. I thought I was starting small when I decided to practice setting boundaries by drinking more water, but the truth is, it was a massive step towards achieving more that would only help me to become my best self. By doing this, I was now building my self-control muscle through self-discipline, and I accomplished setting some boundaries for myself. Actions will always speak louder than our words, and the people around you or in your circle will notice the changes. Some will even bring attention to them. For example, on Christmas of 2020, I went home to Jamaica to spend time with my family, and Christmas in Jamaica is very festive with food and drinks. Halfway through my nine-day visit, my mom said, "I've noticed you only ask for water to drink, even with your meals. I wish I could drink water like that." At that moment, I realized I had done what I once thought was impossible.
***Self-Discipline and Self-Control***
The Oxford Dictionary defines self-control as "the ability to control oneself, in particular one's emotions and desires, especially in difficult situations." Self-discipline is "the ability to control one's feelings and overcome one's weaknesses."
"Applying these principles to our lives can be challenging, especially when we've been doing things a certain way for years. I am still establishing boundaries in various areas of my life, which requires discipline, but I take pride in my progress over the years. Hebrews 12:11 says, "No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening, it is painful! But afterward, there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way." The Bible is my number one go-to book for lessons on how to grow and become the best version of myself that God created me to be. God is willing to give you the desires of your heart; if you ask, you will receive them. I ask God for continued guidance to help me become who he wants me to be, and I know I have to do the work because "faith without works is dead" (James 2:14).
